Maybe you’ve noticed Mom forgetting to turn off the faucet after washing dishes or Dad having difficulty using stairs. You think it might be time to talk to them about finding some additional help, but you don’t know the best communication techniques to use. If your aging parents are accustomed to living independently or are tenacious (to say it nicely), it can be challenging to convince them of the need for help.You and your parents have common goals: aging comfortably and maintaining their independence. The following tips can make communicating with parents easier and more effective.
- Look Through Their Eyes: They are learning to accept and work with their physical and mental conditions. They could be afraid, sad or trying to assert their authority when all you see is stubbornness.
- Be Proactive: If you see concerning behavior from your aging parents, don’t wait to say something. If you wait for the “perfect” moment, a serious accident or illness could happen in the meantime. Then, finding long-term care becomes an emergency. This stressful situation can be avoided by exploring the choices available before a crisis occurs.
- Give Choices: By giving older adults the chance to make decisions regarding long-term care for themselves, they maintain independence and dignity. Try not to overwhelm them with an abundance of decisions as that can create tension and anxiety.
- Be Open: Express your feelings or worries in a clear, calm manner. By showing concern, you are showing your love and appreciation.
- Share in Decision-Making: Ask them how they would like to handle things. Decide together if they want to hire in-home care services, move to an assisted living facility, or live with you or relatives.
- Be Considerate: No one likes to be pestered. If your family is stymied, pause the discussion for the present. You can offer assistance at a later time.
- Be Humble: Share your views with kindness. If it seems your parents may be willing to consider extra care or agree with your views, simply offer thanks.
By improving communication skills and learning new communication techniques, you are taking an important first step in talking to and caring for your elderly parents.
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