In a previous post, we discussed the clinical definition and dangers of hoarding disorder (HD). If you are unsure if your loved one has HD, the International OCD Foundation says the key feature of HD is disorganization to the point where the living spaces can no longer be used for everyday activities as they were intended.
Other warning signs of HD include:
- Your loved one keeps parts of the home (or the entire home) off-limits. They may feel embarrassed or try to hide the clutter.
- Your loved one often fails to pay bills. They may lose track of the paperwork in the piles of other things.
- Your loved one puts off repairs to the home. When something breaks, they may not be able to actually access the area due to the accumulation or may want to tidy up before the repair person comes but never gets around to cleaning and cancels the appointment.
Before you decide to have a talk with your loved one, consider their feelings about the clutter. The International OCD Foundation offers the following guidelines about how they may feel:
- Happy: They have strong positive emotions when acquiring new things.
- Guilty: They have intense negative feelings when considering decluttering.
- Desire: They believe the items are necessities or treasures.
- Denial: They disbelieve the clutter interferes with their life.
It may be difficult to dive directly into the clean-up process because of your loved one’s complex emotions. Be considerate of their feelings and bring up the topic in a sympathetic and respectful manner. You may be frustrated and resentful by the clutter, but keep in mind these items are valuable and important to them. According to the International OCD Foundation, “An atmosphere of understanding can help with negotiations to keep certain spaces clutter-free which will help maintain family harmony.”
Clutter can cause dangerous fall risks in the home. Many ComForCare/At Your Side Home Care locations offer complimentary free fall risk assessments, which includes identification of potential home hazards. In addition, our caregivers can provide light housekeeping such as dusting and vacuuming and assist with personal care. These are just some of the 50 ways we can help you and your loved one live their best life possible.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published March 29, 2016. It has been revamped and updated for accuracy and comprehensiveness.